The human mind and sexual desire is just that, a mentally induced desire. For humans, there are so many things that impress upon our minds that affect so much of who we are as individuals that most people are not taught how to be self aware or better yet, aware of the ones around us, especially when it comes to sex.
Sexual desire is normal a curiosity that a person goes through earlier in life than one might think. Babies and kids find out about arousal when they figure out it feels good to touch their weewees. They continue on and find themselves in some sort of schooling or find friends and then learn about sex, or what they believe it is. Around about twelve or a little sooner, one may find out about porn or some may seek a magazine. All of these experiences combined with the home stability, if any abuse has occured, and many other things make a person associate certain things with sexual desires. Turn ons.
"Pornography" comes from two Greek words: porne, meaning prostitute, and grapho, meaning writing..." Which was "Intended to arouse sexual desire" (Heins, 138). These presumably male artists recorded one of teir pass-time topics, sex. Many other artists also depict moments in ecstasy with all sorts of partners.
After doing some non-extensive research on lovely Google, one can find a pornography starring almost anything. Yes, I said anything. The problem is when discussing the morality of what is acceptable porn. Beastiality, "Mother-Son Do Their Thang", MILfS Ready to Go, all types of racial porns, hardcores, lebians, gays, and so on you know what you like. The point is, when it becomes "obscene" (Heins, 139) is when the arousal goes from an erotic experience ro an uncomfortable or unmoral "porn".
After asking people their opinions on the matter as well as observing my own experiences and reading this chapter on the subject, it seems as if sexual desires are going nowhere and they have to be delt with. The violent or immoral thoughts people might have are just thoughts until they become actions. When a person's need to control or dominate spmeone or something is not addressed, it can lead to a cycle of unhealthy behavior for that person as well as any person that is in any type or relationship with that person. Since the root beings with parenting, parents shpuld have frequent talks with their children about sex and desires. When teenagers do become active, educate them on good decision making or how to deal with things that do not have to do with sex.
We all have our turn ons, and porn is here to stay. It is just about being safe and knowing what is healthy habit building and when is not. If you start early, its more likely to stick
How would one determine what is healthy? What about in other countries where they aren't told beastiality and incest are bad practice? Is it our job to tell people what are acceptable turn-ons? Or is it only when the woman or person gets hurt?
To answer your beastiality and incest question, I would like to point out that almost every culture has a folklore about beastiality, in which a man or woman has sex with an animal or "beast" for various reasons. Most well known should be the exploits of Zeus, who often came to women in different forms so as not to be caught by Hera. Why beastiality is such a common topic in folk tales I have no idea,but I am certain it can be found in any country. As for incest I believe that most cultures do have a taboo about such practices mostly because of the undesired outcomes. Babies with parents that are basically genetic matches of each other often show deformities. And when you are breeding your own workforce, a child who cannot work is a tragedy. This is cruel but history has not been kind to those with handicaps.
ReplyDeleteI chuckled at the "when they touch their weewees" bit.
ReplyDeleteTo answer the first question, I would say determining whether it's healthy depends on whether or not it hurts anyone. Many of what most people would consider "stranger" sexual fantasies are often frowned upon (or at least highly questioned) by the general populace. For instance, a sadist might be aroused from the idea of violent acts against others but that doesn't necessarily mean they would actually want to hurt someone. The existence of said fantasies in pornography allows an outlet without physical engagement in the act. (Keep in mind, I'm speaking with the intention that the pornographic work didn't involve actual violent acts against individuals, but actors believably making it appear so.) Basically, there are some pretty wild fetishes and sexual fantasies out there, and people can pretty much find porn for whatever they're into. Of course there are varying degrees to everything.
-George
i think that it is hard to really determine what is healthy because when it comes to pornography, it seems that this is more psychological therefore harder to determine verses a flesh wound were its more obvious to tell what is harmful and what is not. my general rule is is that if it does not harm anyone else then it is fine however, that does not mean that i would want to partake in those acts. as far as bestiality in other countries goes, i think that that issue is up to that country because we cannot base our believes and force them upon another country especially if we do not know anything about that country's culture/beliefs. to them it could be one wanting to bond with nature, or other reasons if that is what they believe. i don't believe it is acceptable to tell people what are acceptable turn-ons because it is demeaning to others by saying that our way of life is better then theirs and that they are wrong. what we find gross they may find wonderful. it is so subjective and that is the beauty of it. in some instances if someone does get hurt then yes because i believe that you should not hurt people however, if someone likes it rough and violent yet they agree to it and are happy, then i have no right to tell them not to be even though may not like that experience.
ReplyDeleteI agree with most of what's being said. It's definitely not our job to tell someone what's obscene or not because that is entirely subjective. I had this conversation with a friend once who was into something called "Shota(? I think that's what it's called)" which is basically animated child pornography. As I expressed my disgust at it, my other friends in the conversation just shrugged it off, saying that "it was better he's looking at it than actually doing it." It's still disturbing, as some porn can be, but it doesn't affect the person in any other way than a release. Not only has bestiality and incest been in multiple art forms throughout all cultures, it's been practiced as well. Royal families used to marry within themselves to keep the bloodline pure. Such things may be unhealthy and gross but if that's what gets people's motors running then that's entirely their business.
ReplyDeleteI also agree that people need to start educating children on sexual desires. The article talked about many books, like Judy Blume novels, that were banned because the educated young girls about the changes their bodies go through, which is ludicrous. I have heard so many stories where children, teenagers, and many adults didn't know they could get pregnant. I had a friend who was a doctor that told me a story of how two grown adults got pregnant and confused because they thought the girl could use a male condom and it could work the same way. We literally have a show called 16 and Pregnant because that's the norm and at this point it entertains people. The American educational system is flawed but where it really fails its children is when everyone flips out about sex.